The grandparents of adopted children will play a large role in their lives. Some grandparents will be immediately thrilled by the news that their adult child is adopting, while others might be cautious about their adult child’s decision. All grandparents will likely have some questions about adoption and their future role in their adopted grandchild’s life. The following is a list of four things new adoptive grandparents need to know:
- Adoption has changed.
In the past, adoption used to be shrouded in secrecy. Women went off to have the child then came back months later childless. Children were often adopted and never even informed they were not biologically related to their parents. Today, adoption is almost never a secret. Communication and information is key, and many adoptive parents keep in contact with birth parents or families so that they play an ongoing role in the child’s life. It can be helpful as an adoptive grandparent to educate yourself about adoption today. Read books, visit websites, and gather information to show your child your interest and support in their decision to adopt.
- You may need some time to become comfortable with adoption.
Adoption may be a new concept to you and you will likely need some time and space to prepare for becoming an adoptive grandparent. Adoption often takes time, from the paperwork and training to the decision making and waiting. Take this time to prepare yourself for your new grandchild. Educate yourself as your child has done and ask all questions you may have. Seeing you involved and supportive will greatly encourage your adult child and your grandchild will feel your enthusiasm when he or she arrives.
- You can have a role in the adoption.
The grandparents of adoptive parents often ask what they can do to support the adoption. Like child birth, adoption can be a shared experience. Grandparents could provide practical support by doing things like donating air miles for any adoption related travel, offering babysitting or breaks to the new parents, donating to the child’s adoption organization, or researching current events from the child’s birth country. Other ways include seeking out the input of others on the subject of adoption, such as adult adoptees or birthparents. In this manner, you can contribute to the adoptive parent’s knowledge bank. At all times remain positive and listen without judgment to the adoptive parents. Understand that the adoption process can be challenging for the adoptive parents and your love and support will be greatly appreciated and remembered.
- You have much to look forward to.
Being an adoptive grandparent will bring you much love and joy. How a child arrives in your family is rarely what matters; rather, what happens after that arrival means the most. Accordingly, prepare yourself for much excitement, love, and fantastic new experiences once your adoptive grandchild arrives.
McDowell Chartered: Helping the Whole Family Successfully Adopt a Child
Adoptive grandparents will play an important role in their grandchild’s life. It is not always easy to adjust to the concept of adoption, and perhaps it is something new and unfamiliar to you. Following our tips and with time, you will open to the idea and understand all that you have to offer towards the adoption process. The Kansas Adoption Attorneys at McDowell Chartered have assisted countless Kansas families through the adoption process and we are here to help you. No matter the type of adoption you seek, we will walk you through the process towards a successful adoption. Call McDowell Chartered today at (316) 633-4322 for an initial consultation.